性欲，爱情与婚姻：统一或分离？

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草蜢 发表于 2012-7-16 15:43
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九九 发表于 2012-7-19 11:20
大家都对不统一表示理解。问题是一方面不和谐，长期下来另外两方面或多或少就会变淡……  ...

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ok let's use a 0-100 scale to represent your degree of satisfication, with 0 being absolutely dissatisfied and 100 being extremely satisfied, for all three attributes (性欲，爱情, and attachment).
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I guess different people would have different answers.  But the fact is, if you want a 90+ attachment, chances are you're only gonna get somewhere between 60 to 85 for 性欲.  Chances of getting 90+ for all three are slim.  Very slim.  So the question now becomes, are you happy with a 80S/90R/90A relation?  How about 70S/90R/90A?  And how about 60S/90R/90A?  Again, different people may have different preferences, as people could have different minimum score requirement on certain attribute.  And these preferences will, to some extent, influence people's decision with regards to the relation (stay or quit).
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